I'm starting to sound like a broken record, but I'm really not sure how I managed to balance being a single mom AND working a full-time job before now - these past few weeks have been ridiculously busy, even with being unemployed!
This weekend FLEW by and I can hardly believe it's Sunday evening again. Then again, I'm having somewhat of a hard time keeping the days straight now that I don't count the hours until 4:15 p.m. on Friday, then dread the ticking of the clock on Sunday night, knowing what is coming at 5:15 a.m. on Monday. Yesterday my best friend (and RP's godmother) came into town for a brief visit which was AWESOME! Visits and catching up are always too short, but it's so nice to be able to visit face to face and do some catching up, and RP and I are going to do an official visit with her godparents in February, which gives us something to look forward to! Then yesterday afternoon we headed off to a birthday party for a good friend's two-year old. This was RP's first time meeting Miss M and with a room full of little kids running around and playing she was at first extremely shy and clingy to Mommy, but it didn't take long before she was diving in playing with everyone and making friends. SOOO cute to see, and we left promising to set up a play date for RP and Miss M sometime soon! :)
This morning RP was a little bit out of sorts, but nothing unusual for her, although I was a tad concerned when she kept complaining that she had a "big owie tummy" this morning... followed by 30 seconds of weird noises that sounded like the cat trying to cough up a hairball and a bit of puking (of course no where NEAR the bathroom... sigh). She seemed fine after that - no fever, ate a little bit, and ran around playing, singing, and dancing after we took showers - so I didn't think anything more about it. When I stopped to use the restroom and grab a quick bite to eat on the way to my brother's house today I noticed that RP was burning up in the backseat - face flushed, hot to the touch, and glassy-eyed - but when I asked her about it she told me it was too hot in the car for her and that she didn't have an owie on her tummy anymore. That being said, I got her some juice, turned the heat in the car WAY down (I'll admit I had it cranked in the back for her to make sure she stayed warm since I didn't have her coat on her for a two-hour car ride - thank god, or the kid would have spontaneously combust back there!), and by the time we got to our destination she had cooled off and seemed to be doing better. She played, ate dinner and a bit of birthday cake (in honor of her cousins' fourth birthdays!), and we were on our merry way home. Arriving at home I noticed she again was burning up (temp of 100.9) so I gave her some Pedialyte, Children's Advil, and put her in bed after reading a story and some serious snuggling. I'm hoping it's just a bug working itself out of her system and she'll be back to her normal self tomorrow, and with that I settled myself in to watch a bit of mindless TV before going to bed.
What I failed to notice is that a wad of gum I had wrapped in a wrapped and set on the table to be thrown away had fallen on the floor and was scooped up by Savannah. Tired as I was, I thought she was working on chewing through her new chew bone... until I saw the shredded wrapper and took a close look at her face and paws. Yep - pink bubble gum everywhere. Yes, I do mean everywhere. The good thing - you can Google "removing gum from a dog's fur" and get THOUSANDS of links/answers. The bad thing - the dog doesn't want to cooperate with the "pour vegetable oil on the gum, work through the fur, then rinse in the bathtub (or in my case, the kitchen sink)" solution which was GUARANTEED to work. It didn't - and now I have a wet, oily, bubblegummed dog who is trying to pull the gum out of her paws AND her older fur-brother who wants a piece of the gum action for himself. I know what I'll be doing first thing in the morning (well, providing I don't have a puking child to contend with)...
I may be unemployed, but I really still need that vacation...
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Sunday, January 23, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
New Year, new look...
For the blog, not for me that is (well, at least for right now!)
I've been trying for a while now to update the look of the blog and finally took the time tonight to do it. This was my "reward" to myself for getting RP to bed at a decent hour AND spending two hours job hunting (ugh - at this point I'm ready to take just about anything... and it's only been two weeks!). I'm not real happy with how the new header turned out as I think it looks grainy and fuzzy, but since I've been at it for over an hour I'm throwing in the towel and saying it will have to do for now (although any comments/suggestions are always welcome!)!
Now on to that pesky New Year's resolution to finally lose my "baby weight" and get that new look for myself! 65 days until we go to Disney... so I'd better get on it, and FAST!
I've been trying for a while now to update the look of the blog and finally took the time tonight to do it. This was my "reward" to myself for getting RP to bed at a decent hour AND spending two hours job hunting (ugh - at this point I'm ready to take just about anything... and it's only been two weeks!). I'm not real happy with how the new header turned out as I think it looks grainy and fuzzy, but since I've been at it for over an hour I'm throwing in the towel and saying it will have to do for now (although any comments/suggestions are always welcome!)!
Now on to that pesky New Year's resolution to finally lose my "baby weight" and get that new look for myself! 65 days until we go to Disney... so I'd better get on it, and FAST!
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Full time work!
No, unfortunately I haven't found a full-time job yet, but I sent off the first round of resumes last evening, with the help of little RP who decided that she needed to "help" Mommy in her job search by not listening and going to bed when she was supposed to. In order to get anything done, I let her get up and sit at the table and draw with colored pencils while I job searched and posted my resume. Hopefully I hear something soon!
This "stay-at-home Mom" gig is a full-time job for sure! I think I am busier now than when I was working full-time, probably because there is so much I wanted/needed to do with RP and around the house that I am now finally starting to tackle! I'm not complaining about any of this, mind you; in fact, I really am enjoying it. I wasn't sure what to expect after being off last year to bring RP home, and this is truly different. She can communicate thoughts and feelings now (along with "wants!") whereas last year we were just trying to get settled and into a routine, and I'm enjoying spending every moment I can with her. Too bad there isn't a way to get PAID to do this regularly, but I'm enjoying it while I can, as hopefully I'll be back to work soon and wishing for this time together.
Off to shower while RP naps - then it's off to grocery shopping, making dinner, and then a little play time before bedtime!
This "stay-at-home Mom" gig is a full-time job for sure! I think I am busier now than when I was working full-time, probably because there is so much I wanted/needed to do with RP and around the house that I am now finally starting to tackle! I'm not complaining about any of this, mind you; in fact, I really am enjoying it. I wasn't sure what to expect after being off last year to bring RP home, and this is truly different. She can communicate thoughts and feelings now (along with "wants!") whereas last year we were just trying to get settled and into a routine, and I'm enjoying spending every moment I can with her. Too bad there isn't a way to get PAID to do this regularly, but I'm enjoying it while I can, as hopefully I'll be back to work soon and wishing for this time together.
Off to shower while RP naps - then it's off to grocery shopping, making dinner, and then a little play time before bedtime!
Sunday, January 9, 2011
New Year, new opportunities?
After a crazy hectic holiday season I was kind of looking forward to mellowing out in the new year, enjoying RP, and starting to look for a new job, closer to home and without the crazy commute (let alone the crazy politics at the office). However, when I started to formulate those thoughts in my head, I had no idea that some of that was already in the works, and that 2011 would literally start off with a "BANG" for me... and not in a good way.
I was off for the holidays until January 3, which happened to be one day after my 4-year anniversary with my employer. While things at work had gone from ridiculous to worse, I was doing my best to toe the company line, play the "game" (so to speak), and keep my head above water until I could find something else. In the last 12 months my employer required me to "check-in" during FMLA (aka - work, which equated to 10-20 hours per week while I was off... and unpaid), change my work hours and make me feel horribly guilty if I couldn't attend some after work party with sales (I was read the riot act for not attending a Dave and Buster's event which happened to be the same night as RP's Christmas program - my boss actually had the audacity to point out to me that HE left for his son's program, then went back downtown for the party. Let me point out that his son is about 10-12 years old and he lives about 30 minutes closer to the city than I do... OH, and has a wife AND an ex-wife to help care for his kids), AND tell me that effective January 1 I would be taking a 15% pay cut on my annual salary, and a 5% decrease on my bonus potential. I was pissed to say the least, and several times broke down in the office and/or on the train crying, and I'm pretty sure none of this helped the panic attacks I was starting to have that I told almost no one about, my stomach issues which had flared up once again in the last 3 months, or the sleep apnea which I was recently diagnosed with, but wasn't able to take the time off to see the doctor to actually GET the CPAP machine I am supposed to have.
Sorry, that was long. Clearly I am still pissed. Considering the fact that on January 4th I was "relieved" of my current position, I think I have every right to be. Yep, that's right - on January 4 around 2:30 in the afternoon I was called into a meeting with my boss, only to find that the meeting was actually with HR and I was told that although they have no real reason as to why, I was being laid off. The experience was both maddening and humiliating, especially since there was no reason behind it - just, "thanks but no thanks" and that was it. In hindsight, the signs were all there and I chose to believe that if I played the game along with everyone else I could salvage what was left of my career there until I could find something else.
That being said, while I am still having panic attacks about how I'm going to pay for things, and what I'm going to do for a job, there is a sense of relief in no longer having to deal with the games and *bs* that had become my life over the last year. Do I think they discriminated against me because I took FMLA, not once but twice in 2.5 years? Yes. Do I think they discriminated against me because I was a single mom who lived in the 'burbs and wouldn't/couldn't devote 12-15 hours a day to massaging the ego of the VP? Absolutely. Do I think I'll be happier in the long run, and stronger for having gone through this? Indeed.
I have been through so much over the last few years and I've said time and time again that I can't believe how truly fantastic my support system is in my family and friends, and this time was no exception. I have been talking for a LONG time about wanted to teach/train again, but didn't realize exactly HOW much I talked about it until I started receiving all the e-mails and phone calls of support from everyone, and almost every single one said something along the lines of "maybe now you can go back and get that teaching degree you always talked about." So, while I'm actively looking for a job (hopefully back in the training profession!) I've also renewed my substitute teaching certificate and am gathering all my transcripts so I can talk to a few colleges about what it would take to get my teaching degree.
I don't know what the rest of 2011 is going to hold, but it certainly is starting off on an interesting note. Thanks (for the umpteenth time!) to my family and friends, who truly are the most loving, supportive, and amazing people in the world - RP and I don't know what we'd do, or where we'd be, without you!
I was off for the holidays until January 3, which happened to be one day after my 4-year anniversary with my employer. While things at work had gone from ridiculous to worse, I was doing my best to toe the company line, play the "game" (so to speak), and keep my head above water until I could find something else. In the last 12 months my employer required me to "check-in" during FMLA (aka - work, which equated to 10-20 hours per week while I was off... and unpaid), change my work hours and make me feel horribly guilty if I couldn't attend some after work party with sales (I was read the riot act for not attending a Dave and Buster's event which happened to be the same night as RP's Christmas program - my boss actually had the audacity to point out to me that HE left for his son's program, then went back downtown for the party. Let me point out that his son is about 10-12 years old and he lives about 30 minutes closer to the city than I do... OH, and has a wife AND an ex-wife to help care for his kids), AND tell me that effective January 1 I would be taking a 15% pay cut on my annual salary, and a 5% decrease on my bonus potential. I was pissed to say the least, and several times broke down in the office and/or on the train crying, and I'm pretty sure none of this helped the panic attacks I was starting to have that I told almost no one about, my stomach issues which had flared up once again in the last 3 months, or the sleep apnea which I was recently diagnosed with, but wasn't able to take the time off to see the doctor to actually GET the CPAP machine I am supposed to have.
Sorry, that was long. Clearly I am still pissed. Considering the fact that on January 4th I was "relieved" of my current position, I think I have every right to be. Yep, that's right - on January 4 around 2:30 in the afternoon I was called into a meeting with my boss, only to find that the meeting was actually with HR and I was told that although they have no real reason as to why, I was being laid off. The experience was both maddening and humiliating, especially since there was no reason behind it - just, "thanks but no thanks" and that was it. In hindsight, the signs were all there and I chose to believe that if I played the game along with everyone else I could salvage what was left of my career there until I could find something else.
That being said, while I am still having panic attacks about how I'm going to pay for things, and what I'm going to do for a job, there is a sense of relief in no longer having to deal with the games and *bs* that had become my life over the last year. Do I think they discriminated against me because I took FMLA, not once but twice in 2.5 years? Yes. Do I think they discriminated against me because I was a single mom who lived in the 'burbs and wouldn't/couldn't devote 12-15 hours a day to massaging the ego of the VP? Absolutely. Do I think I'll be happier in the long run, and stronger for having gone through this? Indeed.
I have been through so much over the last few years and I've said time and time again that I can't believe how truly fantastic my support system is in my family and friends, and this time was no exception. I have been talking for a LONG time about wanted to teach/train again, but didn't realize exactly HOW much I talked about it until I started receiving all the e-mails and phone calls of support from everyone, and almost every single one said something along the lines of "maybe now you can go back and get that teaching degree you always talked about." So, while I'm actively looking for a job (hopefully back in the training profession!) I've also renewed my substitute teaching certificate and am gathering all my transcripts so I can talk to a few colleges about what it would take to get my teaching degree.
I don't know what the rest of 2011 is going to hold, but it certainly is starting off on an interesting note. Thanks (for the umpteenth time!) to my family and friends, who truly are the most loving, supportive, and amazing people in the world - RP and I don't know what we'd do, or where we'd be, without you!
Monday, December 27, 2010
Our first Christmas
Yes, this is a bit late, but like most things since I've become a Mom, I severely underestimated the amount of time and energy preparing for Christmas would take! That being said, it would seem that RP had a WONDERFUL holiday!
Christmas Eve was especially wonderful because it marked exactly 10 months since RP and I walked out of the orphanage in St. Petersburg as a family. Ever since sitting on Santa's lap at her Winter concert at school, all RP could talk about was Santa coming to her house, and this year Nana and Papa spent Christmas Eve with us so Santa could make an appearance on Christmas Eve AND they could be here to watch Christmas through her eyes (and help Mommy survive it) as she opened presents right after he left.
Like most two-year olds it didn't take her long to get the hang of opening presents, and not only did she rip her own open, but also "helped" Nana, Papa, and Mommy open theirs. Seems that little RP figured every present under the tree was for her, and we had to stop her from ripping open the gifts that Mommy had purchased for other family members and friends - if it was under the tree, it was fair game! After presents she spent 20 minutes arguing "no night-night Mommy," with me before grabbing my hand (and her pillow) and leading me upstairs where she promptly crashed.
Opening all these presents is hard work...
Christmas Day was spent at a family friend's house, again with Nana and Papa, and of course more presents. This was followed by Christmas Day - Part II with Aunt Sarah, Uncle Chris, and all our cousins at Nana and Papa's house - with more presents. Watching all the kids open their presents together, let alone see their faces when Nana announced their big present - a trip to Disney World in March - was priceless.
We're going to Disney World!!!
I can't wait.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Santa's workshop
Despite my best efforts my basement now looks like Santa has relocated his workshop from the North Pole to just outside of Chicago. I swore I wasn't going to go crazy with Christmas, and even set a budget to stick to when shopping - the problem is that I got SUCH good deals (for whatever reason) this year that I was able to get WAY more than I fathomed I could while using that budget, so Santa and Mommy are going to be VERY good to RP this Christmas.
I might be the only one, but I'm not sure where the year went. The beginning of the year was all a blur to me - the waiting and prepping for my court date, flying back and forth to Russia, then bringing my little RP home. The next few months were a blur as well as we got settled at home and established a routine, which was followed by summer months of school and work. I have NO idea where summer went, and I barely remember fall, but it is freezing cold here, snowing, and we are a mere 17 days away from Christmas, which I can hardly believe.
With all the craziness holidays (and holiday scheduling!) brings I'm not sure when I'll be able to update this again, so please consider this an early holiday blessing to each of you - I hope you all have safe and happy holidays with your loved ones, and that the new year is great for each of you!
Happy Holidays!
I might be the only one, but I'm not sure where the year went. The beginning of the year was all a blur to me - the waiting and prepping for my court date, flying back and forth to Russia, then bringing my little RP home. The next few months were a blur as well as we got settled at home and established a routine, which was followed by summer months of school and work. I have NO idea where summer went, and I barely remember fall, but it is freezing cold here, snowing, and we are a mere 17 days away from Christmas, which I can hardly believe.
With all the craziness holidays (and holiday scheduling!) brings I'm not sure when I'll be able to update this again, so please consider this an early holiday blessing to each of you - I hope you all have safe and happy holidays with your loved ones, and that the new year is great for each of you!
Happy Holidays!
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Another "one year ago" post...
It's hard to believe that one little year ago my Mom and I had boarded the plane headed to St. Petersburg by way of Germany. I still remember the excitement, anticipation, and yes worry, surrounding the trip. Our travel visas literally came at the eleventh hour, and I had never flown anywhere further than California (despite having traveled to Jamaica and Mexico, I think the distance from here to California is actually greater) and never in my life had I ever had a desire to travel to Europe, let alone Eastern Europe in the middle of winter!
Eleven months had gone by since I first signed with my agency, and three months had passed since I first saw the four referral pictures of my little RP, and this trip was everything I had waited for. Still, I was worried about everything - the plane crashing or getting stuck somewhere in a country that I didn't speak/understand the language, not being met by the wheelchair for my mom in both Germany (which did happen - luckily we were able to hop a "beep-beep cart" to buzz us to our gate just in time to catch our connection!) and Russia, OR not being met by the English-speaking coordinator/translator in St. Petersburg, getting to the Ministry of Education to find that RP had already found another family, or meeting my little girl only to discover that she hated me... you get the idea.
In hindsight, the original trip couldn't have gone smoother. Our flights were fairly smooth and VERY uneventful, the coordinator actually found ME in Russia because I was looking for her so hard that I completely missed the big "EAC" sign she was holding, the hotel accommodations were very nice and most of the staff there was fluent in English, and at the Ministry of Education I saw a picture of RP that I had never seen before (and wish they had given me... but they didn't) along with her medical and personal information, and was given the green light to go and see my baby!
I had so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving, and am trying to keep myself in check for Christmas (unlike for RP's birthday when it literally took her over an hour to open all of her presents!). I won't lie - single parenting (or, just parenting in general) is WAY harder than I thought it would be, and the worries haven't stopped since those flights last year. I worry constantly about whether or not RP is getting enough attention from me, learning the right things, and yes, does she know how much I love her, and does she love me as well? In my heart of hearts I know the answers to that, and I was kidding myself last year when I thought that once the process was done and we were home I would STOP worrying, and just start enjoying. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy each and every day with my little princess (yes, even the challenging ones), I just realized that the worries won't ever stop - they just change with time - but she will ALWAYS be my little Russian Princess...
Eleven months had gone by since I first signed with my agency, and three months had passed since I first saw the four referral pictures of my little RP, and this trip was everything I had waited for. Still, I was worried about everything - the plane crashing or getting stuck somewhere in a country that I didn't speak/understand the language, not being met by the wheelchair for my mom in both Germany (which did happen - luckily we were able to hop a "beep-beep cart" to buzz us to our gate just in time to catch our connection!) and Russia, OR not being met by the English-speaking coordinator/translator in St. Petersburg, getting to the Ministry of Education to find that RP had already found another family, or meeting my little girl only to discover that she hated me... you get the idea.
In hindsight, the original trip couldn't have gone smoother. Our flights were fairly smooth and VERY uneventful, the coordinator actually found ME in Russia because I was looking for her so hard that I completely missed the big "EAC" sign she was holding, the hotel accommodations were very nice and most of the staff there was fluent in English, and at the Ministry of Education I saw a picture of RP that I had never seen before (and wish they had given me... but they didn't) along with her medical and personal information, and was given the green light to go and see my baby!
I had so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving, and am trying to keep myself in check for Christmas (unlike for RP's birthday when it literally took her over an hour to open all of her presents!). I won't lie - single parenting (or, just parenting in general) is WAY harder than I thought it would be, and the worries haven't stopped since those flights last year. I worry constantly about whether or not RP is getting enough attention from me, learning the right things, and yes, does she know how much I love her, and does she love me as well? In my heart of hearts I know the answers to that, and I was kidding myself last year when I thought that once the process was done and we were home I would STOP worrying, and just start enjoying. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy each and every day with my little princess (yes, even the challenging ones), I just realized that the worries won't ever stop - they just change with time - but she will ALWAYS be my little Russian Princess...
November 30, 2009
Our very first meeting
November 25, 2010
Our first Thanksgiving as a family!
Without the love, support, and encouragement of my family and friends I never could have gone through this process, let alone survived it, and while I'm sure it sounds cliche', it was all completely worth it. My life is truly transformed by this tiny little princess who calls me "Mommy," and without the incredible support system I had during the process, and especially now, I wouldn't be where I am today. For all of you, and for RP, I am truly thankful...
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